A Breakup In The Family Will Be Hard, But It Doesn’t Have To Be Hell
Any break up will be difficult to cope with. You may remember in fifth grade when breaking up with that boy felt like the end of the world. But, easily the worst type of relationship break is the end of a marriage. Then, you could be looking at either a divorce or annulment proceeding. The difference with a divorce is that it won’t affect just you or your partner. It will affect any children you might have and quite possibly anyone you both have a relationship with. So, there is no getting around the fact that a divorce is going to be a hard situation. But, there are ways to make it easier. We think typically, you should be looking at a divorce through three different points of view.
Through Your Eyes
Let’s first look at how a divorce is going to affect you and the best way to make it easier. The first thing we suggest is hiring an attorney. When you look at divorce attorneys, you should be trying to find one that will cater to your needs. The best attorneys will make the process of the divorce easy for you, no matter what the reason for the break up was.
You should also be trying to decrease the stress in your life. It may surprise you to know that when some people have to deal with a divorce they take time off work. They may use their holiday weeks and this can be very beneficial. It allows you a chance to get away and escape before coming back to deal with the proceedings. At the very least, we suggest you book some weekends dedicated to making yourself feel better.
The final thing you need to think about is what you want from the divorce proceeding. When it comes down to it, what most people want is for the outcome to be fair. You need to get any ideas of revenge or hurt out of your mind and focus on getting on with the rest of your life.
Through Your Childrens Eyes
For your children, the most important thing that you can do is keeping the on going proceedings civil. You should not be shaming your partner or arguing with them in front of the child. You need to make sure they understand that the divorce is not their fault. They should also know that you still care about your partner and that they still care about you. Try to let them understand that this is the best solution for everyone including them. After all staying with someone you no longer love can be as detrimental to a child’s upbringing as a difficult divorce.
There may be times when your children will not be able to see your former partner. We cannot stress how difficult this will be for them. You need to make sure they have others in their life that they can rely on instead. Building up family relationships in this instance is always a good idea.
Through Your Partner’s Eyes
Finally, you should think about the divorce from the perspective of your partner. Generally speaking, they want exactly what you want. They are looking for a fair proceeding that is dealt with quickly while ensuring your children’s well being is made the top priority. Working together, you can and will ensure this occurs.